Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Wedding Plans

I was watching an episode of Basketball Wives LA (my new guilty pleasure) and one of the cast members said she was engaged for 9 years. She and her fiance ultimately broke up.

So, just a simple question today:
Would you be in engaged for 9 years? Why or Why not?

Once you get the ring, how long does it take to walk down the aisle?

I understand that there could be unforeseen circumstances — a family death, financial problems, conflict with setting a date because of other obligations, I mean anything...maybe the beautiful venue where you really, really wanted to hold your ceremony is so booked that it isn't available until 9 years from now and that's the ONLY place you want to get married. It's your dream spot - lol...

For example, I have a friend who was suppose to get married in August, but she postponed her wedding until next year because her aunt is suffering from cancer and could die any day now.

But she had already planned the wedding (got her gown, flowers, reception hall, etc.). She's waiting a year - not 9.

I don't know. It seems like an engagement goes beyond just having a ring. It's something about planning a wedding that makes it more concrete - hey, we're actually doing this, we're gonna be husband and wife.

But even PLANS change...(Cookie had planned a wedding twice before she and Magic actually tied the knot.)

Anyway, I'm going on and on now. So let me know your thoughts.


Anonymous said...

I was engaged for about that long too. I wasn't waiting for the guy to decide though. Part of the reason was finishing school, then deep down I think I knew that I wasn't suppose to marry him. When I finally started planning, I wasn't excited about it. Ultimately, we broke thing I ever did (breaking up that is).

SingLikeSassy said...

No, I would not be engaged for 9 years. Shit on that. LOL!

It's different for every couple, but I think the older you are the more you know yourself and what you want out of life and relationships, and you don't need years and years of dating to suss the situation out.

Now, I DO know a couple that got engaged with no intention of every marrying, they say they don't need the piece of paper. They got engaged to shut people up about when they were getting married. That seems silly to me, but, it's their thing not mine. *shrug*

TNDRHRT said...

No, I would NEVER be engaged for more than a year. At my age, I'm pretty sure I'd know within a year of being in a committed relationship if I want to take the steps towards marriage with someone. After that, the engagement would be a year MAX. I'm not looking to have a full blown out wedding. Small and intimate is more my flavor now.