Monday, January 31, 2011

And the Drama Continues...

So did you hear Mary Harvey, ex-wife of comedian/radio host Steve Harvey on the Tom Joyner Morning Show today?

She explained to Tom that she just wants an apology from her ex-husband. You can read a condensed version of the interview here or below you can see her in person talking to Tom in his studio.

Here's the video of Part One of her interview.

And here's the video of Part Two.

You can tell that she's suffered through a lot of hurt and pain. She feels wronged. But do you think this is the best way for her to express her feelings? Do you think differently of Steve now that you've heard Mary's story? Do you think she's telling the truth? (Mr. Harvey has alleged that Mary's videos are filled with lies) What do you think of this situation? Should she have just kept quiet?

Check out the videos and let me know your thoughts.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

I do, But first...

Hey yall,

What you think of pre-nups?

If you made substantially more money than your fiance or had
significantly more assets than him or was going to be the primary
breadwinner of your household - would you make your groom-to-be sign a pre-nup?

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Act Like a Lady

Are you a fan of the Steve Harvey show? Do you like him on Family Feud? Ever attended any of his comedy shows? Remember when he was one of the Kings of Comedy along with Bernie Mac and D.L. Hughley?

Harvey has come a long way. Today he has a popular morning program, hosts a syndicated game show, and is a New York Times best-selling author. His book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment, sold millions. African American women from coast to coast are now grabbing his second book, Straight Talk No Chaser: How to Find, Keep and Understand a Man, which also provides relationship advice to those who are wondering how to get that special someone to put a ring on it.

I saw this clip online of Steve Harvey's ex-wife talking about when their relationship ended. It's, well, interesting.

Take a look at the interview below and let me know your thoughts.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

So, Speed Dating

Yeah I did it and will do it again.


Last weekend I went speed-dating with a friend. The event was held at a local restaurant/lounge in the city and sponsored by an African American singles group. As with most events in D.C., the women outnumbered the men, I believe, 10 to 1. But it was a cool atmosphere and I met some really nice guys.

So, here's how it went down:
I was in the second round of the speed-dating. During my session, the women were seated and the guys rotated every 4-5 minutes to a different person. I think I met 9 men. We were suppose to rate the men on a scale of 1-10. If we rated anyone 6 or higher and they rated us 6 or higher, then we were a match and the organizers would connect us.

The first guy I met was nice enough. But he lacked, I don't know, energy - like someone made him come to this thing and he didn't really want to be there. He told me that I looked like a choreographer (Really? And I didn't even do any of my Jazzercise moves - lol). "Are you into the arts?" he asked me. "You look like you do spoken word or something like that." (It must be the locs - lol). He worked as a driver but his goal is to become an entrepreneur.

The second guy was straight up: Look I'm 6'3 and looking for someone at least 5'7 he told me. How tall are you, 5'4, 5'5? "Also, I need someone a little bit older. You look like you're only about 30." Now, I know he didn't mean to give me a compliment - but that was a huge compliment- LOL !! Since he knew that I wasn't a match for him, he went on to talk about his business pursuits. He too wanted to be an entrepreneur. "See, I'm looking for a partner. Are you tired of paying for high gas? I have this idea that would cut your gas expenses in half," he said. Wow, you need to hurry up with that, I told him. It'll be ready in two years he assured me.

The third guy was nice. He told me that he does speed dating often and had met about 8 or 9 people. He mentioned that he was from a small town and most of his friends were married with families. He wanted to meet someone and settle down. He also told me that he couldn't believe that there were women out there in their 40s still single.

Let's see, the fourth guy was a tall, chocolate brother. He also got right to the point: So why are you here? he asked. "Because I want to meet a nice guy to date," I answered. What are you looking for? What kind of guy are you looking for? I told him that I was looking for someone kind, caring and honest. But what's your type? he said. Do you like tall, short, fat, skinny, light, dark? I really don't have a preference. I've dated all kinds of guys every shade, height and weight (cause I have - lol). What are you looking for? I asked him. Someone nice to date, he said. Well, do you have a type? No, not really. I want someone kind, caring and honest. O-KKaaaay, I knew where this was going. What's your ideal date he asked? Then it was time to switch (whew !)

Another guy was extremely good-looking. He sat down, told me where he was from and that he was currently in school. For business? I asked. Yeah, how did you know? he said. Let me guess, you want to be an entrepreneur. Wow, are you psychic or something? he said, impressed with my skills. I just smiled.

One guy seemed a little upset, angry. He just couldn't meet anyone real. You feel me? I could relate - lol.

The next several guys were a blur. I didn't give anyone more than a 4 rating. I can think of one who I probably could have given a 6 or higher. However, most of the guys I met were younger than I would have liked - except for the guy who thought I was 30. I think the men I met were between the age of 25 and 35. I want someone just a few years older than that.

For future events I would suggest having the same number of men and women. Because there were so many women, the men had the option of participating in several sessions.

But overall I had a good time and would definitely do it again.
1) It's a good way to meet a lot of men in a short period of time.
2) You don't have to worry if someone will come up and talk to you.
3) After the speed-dating session, you can decide if you want to connect with someone after the event.

No pressure.

What do you guys think of speed-dating?
Would you do it?
Do you think 5 minutes is long enough to decide whether you like someone or not?
Do you know anyone who met someone speed-dating?

photo by Supercon Convention.

Sunday, January 9, 2011

2011 - Faith, Focus, Follow-up

I didn't want my first blog of the year to be about my speed dating experience last night. I'll save that for tomorrow.

But I wanted my first post to be a positive look forward - setting realistic achievable goals. Last year, I spent a lot of time looking for love — didn't find it.

This year I want to focus on some professional endeavors, clearing the clutter and of course getting this weight off. A friend once told me at the beginning of another year: Faith, Focus, Follow-up. It was the title of a sermon she heard once.

I know exactly what I want to do. But I don't know how to become the person I want to be - know what I mean? How do I get there?

Two days before the new year, a dear associate I was visiting told me: Just Do It. But where do I start? I see my end, but I have no idea where to begin.

In the meantime, I love Travis McCoy and Bruno Mars' goals !!! Check out the video below: