Friday, February 24, 2012

Monday, February 20, 2012

Season of Lent

This Wednesday marks the beginning of the season of Lent, "a special time of prayer, penance, sacrifice and good works in preparation of the celebration of Easter." According to the Catholic Education Resource Center, people are encouraged "to give up something" for Lent as a sacrifice.

I usually try to give up dessert for Lent. Notice I said TRY. That's my biggest weakness, all things sweet. As a result, sometimes I fail in my effort.

But I have a bigger demon this year: Reality TV.


I believe I am addicted to Reality TV. There's something on almost every night: Basketball Wives, Love & Hip Hop, Real Housewives of Atlanta, Braxton Family Values, the Millionaire Matchmaker. Then you have all those wedding shows: Say Yes to the Dress, 4 Weddings, My Fair Wedding with David Tutera. (I had to stop watching Bridezillas because I just couldn't understand how such mean girls found husbands).

Will I be able to give up Reality TV for the next six weeks, until Easter which is April 8? I don't know. It's going to be real hard (LOL!).

Maybe I could use that time to be productive - work on my book or write some freelance articles. I may just have to pray, because my will power is going to be tested.

Tonite was the beginning of a new season of Basketball Wives and it looks like it's gonna be good. Lawd I just hope a new season of Millionaire Matchmaker doesn't start in the next six weeks !

By the way, would you consider Unsung reality tv or is it documentary, biography? What about Oprah's Master Class?

What are some things that you would find hard to give up for six weeks? (junk food? shopping? the Internet?)


Thursday, February 16, 2012

Men v. Boys

What's the difference between a man and a boy?

Earlier this week, one of my FACEBOOK friends, posted this article from Uptown Magazine titled, 7 Things in Relationships That Separate Men From Boys.

Here's the author's list. My favorite is Number 7.
1) Men look for quality. Boys look for quantity.

2) Men know when to call it quits. Boys know how to wait it out.

3) Men know how to listen. Boys don't.

4) Men value a woman's time. Boys waste it.

5) Men admit their transgressions. Boys convince women they're insecure or crazy.

6) Men date women. Boys date girls.

7) Men ask women out. Boys wait to be asked.

I must admit, I've dated a lot of boys - LOL. I'm ready for a man.

So, what do you think of the author's list? Do you agree with his points? What would you add? In your opinion, what are some things that separate boys from men?

In the meantime, take a look at Toni Braxton's "Just Be A Man About It."

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

A Love Like This

Say what you will about rapper Jim Jones and his girl Chrissy of the VH1 show Love & Hip Hop. But one thing's for sure: Their love for each other is undeniable.

Last season when a character's manager said something nasty about Chrissy, we saw Jim confront the manager and make him apologize to her on camera. I mean Jim almost had dude by the throat. I was scared for the little man because he looked like he was gonna get a beat down.

This season we really got to witness their commitment to each other. I mean Chrissy is sho nuff a ride or die chick. She will stand up for her man and will fight anyone who she feels disrespects him.

Jim is just as passionate about his lady love.

I admired the way Jim went to his mother and, in tears, pleaded with her to make peace with Chrissy - "the woman he loved." The two had been at each other's throats a long time. In fact, Mama Jones made a diss record about Chrissy (and has performed it live). But Jim made it clear to his "mommy" that he loved Chrissy and that she was going to be in his life - whether his mother liked it or not (Check out the video below). His mother agreed to call a truce and the three even went on vacation to Jamaica.

And when Jim's long-time manager, Yandy said some not-so-nice things about Chrissy, he shut that down real quick. Yandy is no longer Jim's manager. On the reunion show, Jim explained to the executive producer that "Chrissy comes first." Nuf said.

I like a man who can stand up to his mother for the woman he loves, let's his friends, co-workers and everyone around him know that this person comes first — her needs, her wants, her happiness. Chrissy noted on one of the episodes how Jim had put aside his ego, his persona, everything to be vulnerable before the cameras and express his feelings for her.

Indeed. While the other women on the show were in constant heartache about how their hip hop men refused to acknowledge their relationships, Jim was never shy about his feelings for Chrissy. In one episode he said he felt it was a PRIVILEGE that she chose to be with him.

Now, I don't condone violence by any means, but I have to give it to these guys, they have each other's back and if you mess with one, you've got a fight with both.

This season we saw Jim do something that Chrissy has been wanting for a long time. He proposed. Check out the proposal below.

This is a man who protects his woman, supports her and believes it is a privilege to be with her. What do you think of a love like this?

Friday, February 10, 2012

JFK's mistress

I didn't see Meredith Viera's entire interview with Mimi Alford, the former White House intern who wrote a memoir about her affair with President John F. Kennedy. I saw Viera interviewed about the story and I saw Alford appear on the Today Show the day after the piece aired on NBC's new newsmagazine show, Rock Center with Brian Williams.

But the more I learn about this story, the more I want to get the book.

Alford was 19 when she interned at the White House, a sweet young, naive virgin. According to her, four days into her internship she began an 18-month affair with the President of the United States.

In today's Washington Post, it was revealed that President Kennedy had asked her to give his brother, Ted, a lil somethin' somethin'.

According to the Post article, they were in a Boston hotel in 1963 when Kennedy said: “Mimi, why don’t you take care of my baby brother. He could stand a little relaxation.”

Earlier in their "relationship," the Post piece notes, JFK had "urged her to perform a sex act on one of his top aides." And she did - while he watched. But this time, she refused the President's request to give his brother "a little relaxation."

The Post story, which you can read in its entirety here, reveals that after Alford returned to college, the president would fly her back to D.C., and that they continued to see each other even after she got engaged - but not sexually. She writes in her book that that's proof that she "wasn’t just a plaything to him, that he enjoyed my company . . . as a friend."

The New York Times really took Alford to task in its review of the book. Check out the review here.

But the book is titled, Once Upon a Secret: My Affair with President John F. Kennedy and Its Aftermath and I think I may pick it up this weekend. I wonder if Barnes and Nobles has any Groupon or LivingSocial vouchers.

Anyway, what do you think of this story?
Does this revelation change your mind about President Kennedy?
Does this story surprise you?
Do you think Ms. Alford was just a naive teenager who was taken advantage of by an older man with power (the President of the United States)?
Do you think she should have come forth after nearly 50 years?

Let me know your thoughts.

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Sex Addiction

On tonite's episode of Braxton Family Values, you know the show on the WE channel featuring R&B singer Toni Braxton and her sisters, one of the sisters found out that her husband has been having Cyber sex on a social networking site.

She revealed during the show that for the first 5 years of their marriage, he was cyber-sexing, but promised to stop to save their marriage.

Anyway, one of the ladies he had cyber-sexed taped him and threatened to blackmail him with the photos - post them all over the internet. So he came clean to his wife - but not before telling her that he had a sex addiction.


So I ask: Do you believe there's a such thing as a sex addiction? Is it similar to alcoholism, drug addiction or some other disease where you go to rehab and get treatment, therapy? I mean we've heard of celebrities going to rehab for "sex addiction" after they were caught being unfaithful, i.e - Tiger Woods, Eric Benet, David Duchovny (from the X Files).

Last year, Time magazine explored this topic in an article titled "Sex Addiction: Real Disease or Excuse For Men to Cheat?" Check out the article here.

What do you think? Do you think sex addiction is a REAL disease or an excuse to cheat?

Let me know your thoughts.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Valentine's Day

I wanted to write a post about the show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal on the OWN Network, but something else was on my mind this morning: Valentine's Day. As you know, it's next week, so I thought I'd throw out this question: What do you think of guys who don't "celebrate" Valentine's Day?

I've heard the excuses - "It's a made up holiday" or "Why do I need a holiday to show you much I care?" or "I don't believe in Valentine's day." (But you "believe" I should do all the girlfriend stuff - whatever that entails...)

Yeah, yeah, yeah, but what is he really saying?
Well if you believe in the saying, actions speak louder than words, his ACTIONS are loud and clear: I'm Not That Into You (enough to acknowledge you on a day for lovers).

Is Valentine's Day a sort of gauge of where you stand in a relationship, a measure of how much you really mean to a person? If a person doesn't acknowledge you on Valentine's Day does that mean the relationship is not what you thought it was? Maybe you thought it was something more serious than it really was, but you didn't get the memo until Valentine's Day (ouch!).

Say you were dating a person for 11 months, Valentine's Day rolls around - What is your EXPECTATION? What if you don't hear from this person (not even a text), would you be disappointed? Mad? Sad?

Last year I talked to a good friend who was hurt that she didn't get anything for Valentine's Day. Her male "friend" had bought her a beautiful silk shawl for her birthday and a pair of expensive stiletto boots for Christmas. When Valentine's Day came he said, "I don't believe in that stuff." She felt stiffed.

Now, just because he didn't get her anything (or do anything) for Valentine's Day does that mean he didn't care about her? hmmmm

So I ask: When a person (that you believe you're in a relationship with) doesn't acknowledge you on Valentine's Day (a call, a card, flowers, chocolates, dinner, something) is he basically telling you how he feels about you, where you stand in his life and the state of your relationship?

Let me know your thoughts.