I wanted to write a post about the show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal on the OWN Network, but something else was on my mind this morning: Valentine's Day. As you know, it's next week, so I thought I'd throw out this question: What do you think of guys who don't "celebrate" Valentine's Day?
I've heard the excuses - "It's a made up holiday" or "Why do I need a holiday to show you much I care?" or "I don't believe in Valentine's day." (But you "believe" I should do all the girlfriend stuff - whatever that entails...)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, but what is he really saying?
Well if you believe in the saying, actions speak louder than words, his ACTIONS are loud and clear: I'm Not That Into You (enough to acknowledge you on a day for lovers).
Is Valentine's Day a sort of gauge of where you stand in a relationship, a measure of how much you really mean to a person? If a person doesn't acknowledge you on Valentine's Day does that mean the relationship is not what you thought it was? Maybe you thought it was something more serious than it really was, but you didn't get the memo until Valentine's Day (ouch!).
Say you were dating a person for 11 months, Valentine's Day rolls around - What is your EXPECTATION? What if you don't hear from this person (not even a text), would you be disappointed? Mad? Sad?
Last year I talked to a good friend who was hurt that she didn't get anything for Valentine's Day. Her male "friend" had bought her a beautiful silk shawl for her birthday and a pair of expensive stiletto boots for Christmas. When Valentine's Day came he said, "I don't believe in that stuff." She felt stiffed.
Now, just because he didn't get her anything (or do anything) for Valentine's Day does that mean he didn't care about her? hmmmm
So I ask: When a person (that you believe you're in a relationship with) doesn't acknowledge you on Valentine's Day (a call, a card, flowers, chocolates, dinner, something) is he basically telling you how he feels about you, where you stand in his life and the state of your relationship?
Let me know your thoughts.