Monday, November 30, 2009

50 compliments

This weekend I caught an episode of the VH1 reality show Tough Love. If you're not familiar with the show, a matchmaker puts nine manless women through a bootcamp to help them find love.

One bootcamp member who used to be overweight continues to struggle with self-esteem issues and has had a difficult time loving herself or believing that someone else could love her.

Confidence, the show's host revealed, is sexy. Men are attracted to women who are confident. So he instructed her to write 50 compliments about herself.

Like the bootcamp member, I also struggle with self-esteem issues related to weight, so I took on the challenge too.

I could barely write 10 compliments about myself. I finally tweaked out 25, but there's no way I could get to 50. I mean, there's just so many times I could write "cute feet."

This is your challenge this week: Sit down and write 25 compliments about yourself, just 25.

Let me know if this was a difficult or easy assignment for you. How do you see yourself? Did you learn anything?

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Right now

My neighbor's boyfriend is banging on her door accusing her of cheating.
He said, "if you don't have nothing to hide, then open the door."

I don't want her to open the door.

She's a widow with 5 kids. Her youngest is 4.

Friday, November 13, 2009

Housewives - Orange county

Okay, after last night's episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County, I felt the need to write about it.

It's interesting to me that the only one not suffering financially — Vickie — is the one who doesn't count on a man for money. Vickie runs her own business. She is about working hard and enjoying the fruits of her labor. While the other Housewives are crying about how hard times are, they are not out there looking for a job - which is perplexing to me. I guess someone told them that as long as you're beautiful you don't have to work.

Real estate agent Jeana bought her kids homes and cars when the real estate market was booming. Now that the market has gone bust she is facing foreclosure. She's also had to sell some jewelry and other things to make ends meet. I know she provided for her family generously when she had the means, but now that she's struggling I wonder where is her son who plays professional baseball. He would always talk mean to his mother.

Also, I was upset last night when Lynne agreed to allow her 16-year-old daughter to get a nose job. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this young lady's nose. She's beautiful. But her superficial mom says, "It's a lot of competition in Orange County." Like Judge Judy says, "beauty fades, but stupid is forever." Why isn't she encouraging this young lady to study hard or get good grades to get a scholarship to college? Why is she so focused on her looks?
Lynne did say that she believed a nose job would boost her daughter's self-esteem. Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes, no matter how much we change on the outside, we still don't like ourselves. She may have to do a little inside work. But this is not surprising at all, because Lynne herself is obsessed with staying youthful looking. She is contemplating a face lift and basically lives in the gym. Like the other Housewives, she doesn't have a full-time job, but I must give her props for starting her own line of signature cuff bracelets that she's selling to high end department stores. Do you think she would be able to do that if she wasn't on the Housewives show?

I tell ya, these chicks go around all day with their pretty dresses and lunch at expensive restaurants and when the money is all gone they're crying on TV. I don't wish ill will on anyone, but I wished someone would have talked to them about being self-sufficient.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Love Him or Leave Him?

The latest Heart & Soul poll asks: "If my significant other cheated, I would...."
a. Leave

b. Retaliate

c. Get counseling and work it out

d. Stay, but make his/her life miserable

e. nothing

Interestingly, 47 percent of respondents voted that they would leave the relationship and 53 percent said they would get counseling and work it out.

How would you answer this question? Does it depend on the circumstance?
Please go to to vote.