The following post was contributed by a friend. Please read and let me know your thoughts.
All this news coverage of Halle & Padma has me thinking of the price one pays for the perfect baby daddy. Both women wanted children. Instead of going to a sperm bank, they wanted to screen potential baby daddies. Both dated the men and dumped them after the child was born, albeit Halle stayed with Gabriel until Nahla was 2 years old. In my opinion, vanity made them select attractive and somewhat successful baby daddies instead of going the sperm bank route. They didn't want to roll the dice on an unseen sperm donor. I think both essentially wanted a sperm donor yet selected men who now want more. Both men are seeking increased visitation and parental rights.
Was the selection of these baby daddies worth the trouble? In addition to negative press, Halle had to leave a movie project to pursue her custody battle.
Years ago, I told a friend that I wanted a child. She advised me to screen men for a potential baby daddy. I responded that I wanted all or none — meaning a true partner or to adopt and be a single partner. I always feared that I would end up being forced to co-parent with someone I didn't want in my life.
What are your thoughts?
So, what do you guys think of this issue?
Do you want to be a mother?
If you don't have a partner, would you go to a sperm bank or prefer to have a child by someone you think is nice or nice-looking?
Would you want to be a single-mother?