Wednesday, February 3, 2010

To Have and To Hold





So, according to a recent article in USAToday.com , Jenny Sanford, wife of fidelity-challenged South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford tells Barbara Walters in a 20/20 interview that before she got married 20 years ago, her husband "insisted on removing a clause promising to be faithful from their wedding vows."

WHAT?

Your husband INSISTED that you remove a clause promising to be faithful and you married him anyway? If that wasn't a sign...

Jenny explained her decision to Barbara: "We were very young. We were in love. I questioned it, but I got past it."

I know love makes us do a lot of things — like ignore our intuition, our good sense. When it comes to love, we put on blinders. We silence that still voice inside that tells us that something isn't quite right.

As you may recall, last year Gov. Sanford went "missing" for about a week. His staff covered up his absence by saying he was hiking on the Apalachian Trail. In a press conference, Sanford tearfully confessed that he was actually in Argentina with his "soul mate."

Jenny, who suffered embarrassment and humiliation by the lovers' explicit sexual emails, moved out of the governor's mansion and filed for divorce (which should be final this month). Her memoir Staying True is in stores now.

A wise person once said, "When people show you who they are, Believe Them."

Yes. Jenny Sanford has moved on with her life and is a hero to many women for refusing to "stand by her man." But she could have saved herself a lot of pain if she would have just listened to her husband 20 years ago.

He showed her exactly who he was. (low-down, lying, dirty cheat)

What are your thoughts?
Would you marry someone who asked you to remove the vow of faithfulness from your marriage ceremony ?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

i so don't feel sorry for this woman. she's gonna have a bestseller and make out like a bandit.

Anonymous said...

i make it a point of staying out of other folks' marriages. we have no idea what was going on between those two behind closed doors.