So, what do YOU think "equally yoked" means?
Do you believe
couples should be "equally yoked"? In your opinion, how does being "equally
yoked" or "not being equally yoked" impact the success or failure of a
A few months ago, it's probably been a year now, I heard an
author on NPR talk about the failure of her marriage. She was an attorney who
married a blue-collar guy. They grew up together in the same neighborhood, but
after high school she went to college and he went in another direction.
Nevertheless, they married and had children.
If I remember correctly, the
author discussed how, when they would attend her company's work events, she
would cringe when her husband had a conversation with her colleagues. She talked
about how his bad grammar embarrassed her at times.
Then there were the
money issues. She didn't seem to mind being the breadwinner of the family.
However, they disagreed on what to do with the money. Her husband was interested
in material things — nice car, expensive home, clothes, jewelry. But she wanted
to save for their children's college education. They valued different
And I think that's the key: Values.
Just because someone
didn't attend college and you did, does that mean you're not equally-yoked? What
does having the same "values" mean? I'm thinking about what's important to a
person: their spiritual foundation, family, education, ambition, willingness to
grow. Do they have integrity? Are they honest and respectful?
sometimes we may realize a little too late — when we're all in — that a person
may not have the same values or value the same things we do - you know. You feel
me? That's why I have to take it real slow when I date now.
So talk to me
about equally-yoked and values and you know, stuff like that...