Thursday, November 1, 2012

So You Think You Wanna Get Married

Think about it.

Do you REALLY want to get married or do you just want companionship, someone to spend time with and do things with on a regular basis?

Oprah Winfrey has said many times, "with marriage there are expectations."

Ironically, Oprah's father, Vernon and his current wife, Barbara, are in a bitter divorce battle. Read the article published in The Tennessean here.

Vernon says his wife is "guilty of inappropriate marital conduct."

So I looked up the term, "inappropriate marital conduct" and according to Turner Law Offices, it is "the most commonly used ground for divorce" and "means that one spouse has done something that the other spouse deems inappropriate."

The full-service law firm notes on its website that "Cases where inappropriate marital conduct has been proven include: "flipping the bird," calling the other spouse names or using profanity, not providing for the spouse, abnormal sexual requests, and, generally, being a pain in the #^$."

On the other hand, Barbara, Vernon's wife, has accused her husband of trying to kill her.

Geez...this after 12 years of marriage.

So let me hear from you:
Do you really want to get married or do you just want a constant companion because you're lonely?

And folks who are married or were married: Why did you get married? Was it what you expected?

holla at me...


TNDRHRT said...

I want to get married.

TNDRHRT said...

I want to get married because I don't want to shack. LOL! Seriously...I think marriage takes a lot of commitment and I want someone to commit to me and I to them. I want that 'forever' with someone. I know...I know. It's no guarantee that the marriage will last, but I'd like the chance. I don't want a 'companion' for the rest of my life. I'd like a husband who is my companion for the rest of my life.

SingLikeSassy said...

I got married because I loved my husband and I would never have been comfortable or able to relax if he hadn't wanted to commit to me legally and in a formal ceremony. He knew that, too, which is why we got married, which turned out to be a mistake because at the end of the day he wasn't ready to be married again, but he loved me and didn't want to lose me.

I loved being married. I loved having my own family and sharing myself with someone and having that person to rely on. And married loving was niceeeeeee. LOL

Now that I am divorced, I will admit that I appreciate my singleness way more than I did before I got married. And honestly, while it didn't bother me while I was married, I like not having to worry about someone else and consider them when I make decisions.

CW W said...

Speaking from a failed experience, as with most things, the fantasy is better than the reality. That being said, I miss family life.