Me, Jane

I woke up at 2 a.m. this morning and flipped through my MANY cable channels. I stopped at the movie Broadcast News. I had seen it many times before, but I saw it with new eyes this time.

The 1987 movie centers around three folks who work at a television station. There's Aaron, the super smart, super talented average-looking guy who is a great reporter. There's Jane, the driven, career-minded producer whose energy leaps off the screen. And then there's Tom, the handsome anchor who is all style and no substance.

The film is a love triangle. Aaron loves Jane. Jane loves Tom. Now even though Aaron adores Jane from the top of her perfect nose to her tiny tiptoes, Jane lusts after Tom. She knows he's not smart and realizes he is not honest, but she is enamored with his movie star good looks.

During the film, Jane asks Aaron, where he thinks they'll all be in 10 years. He said, "I'll be married with kids and you'll be single and fat."

Indeed, 7 years later, they all meet up at a function. Tom is engaged to a beautiful blond and Aaron is married with a cute kid.

Jane? She is still single. Her career is her life.

I am Jane.

I have met so many Aarons - average-looking, yet good guys who are brilliant, sweet, kind, caring. But I always ignore them in favor of the Toms - dumb dudes who are all style and no substance.

You would think after more than 20 years of dating, I would get it right. But for some reason I always go for the losers and then I end up disappointed and frustrated. It's a pattern and right now I don't understand why I just can't love the good guy.

In the meantime, the Aarons I've met have gotten married and the Toms have moved on to their next conquest.

Me? I'm Jane, alone with my career.

Thoughts on this?
Why do you think I always choose the losers over the good guys?
Maybe I have a self-esteem issue.
I want love. I believe I deserve love. But I always sabotage myself by hooking up with guys I know deep down are no damn good.

How You Doin'?

So, today is Valentine's Day: the day for lovers or the day for those with a special someone to show that special someone just how special they are - LOL.

If you don't have a special someone, I ask - how you doin'?

How you feeling right now? Does Valentine's Day make you sad? Does it make you long for love? Do you think about what could have been (if I had only done...)?

Do the balloons, flowers, teddy bears and cards remind you of what you don't have?

If you don't have a partner, how are you going to spend today — at home or out with the girls?

Or is Valentine's Day just another day to you?

Let me know your thoughts.

Passport Pals

So, I'm listening to the KANE show right now on 99.5 and his question of the day is:
"If I guy invites you on a trip - say Italy, the Galapagos Islands, Brazil - and pays for everything, (you know airfare, hotel, food, entertainment, tourist activities, etc.) would you feel obligated to sleep with him?

A male listener phoned in and said, "Ladies, if you don't expect to put out, don't get on the plane." (lol)

I have a friend who was invited to the Bahamas with a guy who was extremely interested in her. He paid for everything. She says he was flirtatious but nothing happened because he understood that she was not ready for intimacy. (aaawwww) In fact, she told him that they could only be friends. She respected him because he didn't try to cross any boundaries and didn't make her feel bad about going on the trip.

This summer a guy invited me to go with him to his job conference. I think it was in LA. "Let me know so I can get our tickets," he said. I made up some excuse about having to work. I had only known him a little more than a month. Even though I could have visited friends, I wasn't ready to go on a trip with him.

I mean, would you even go on a trip with someone you weren't interested in? If a guy just wanted to hang out he would have invited one of his buddies or his sister.

What are your thoughts?

Harvey v. Harvey

First of all, I didn't know his name was Broderick, but I guess that's why he goes by Steve Harvey.

Anyway, as you know, I'm really following the Steve Harvey/Mary Harvey saga. It keeps getting juicier by the day.

The latest news is that a judge recently ruled that Mary Harvey has been making false allegations and ordered her to stop talking to the media and take down her YouTube videos.

According to an article on NYDailyNews.com, the judge noted Mary Harvey was not left destitute as she has claimed, but was "awarded three homes in the property settlement" and also received $40,000 per month through March 2009 and then an additional $1.5 million." The judge also disputed Mary's claims regarding her son Wynton and Steve's current wife Marjorie. You can read the entire article here.

So what do you think of this latest news? Why would Ms. Mary say those things if there is evidence to prove she's incorrect? Do you think she's upset about Steve's success after standing by him during those tough, early years?

NYDailyNews.com also provided a copy of the 4-page court document detailing the judge's ruling. You will find it below after the attorney's letter:
Harvey document

So...

Tell me, what makes you such a great catch?

Golden Sperm

The following post was contributed by a friend. Please read and let me know your thoughts.






Golden Sperm

All this news coverage of Halle & Padma has me thinking of the price one pays for the perfect baby daddy. Both women wanted children. Instead of going to a sperm bank, they wanted to screen potential baby daddies. Both dated the men and dumped them after the child was born, albeit Halle stayed with Gabriel until Nahla was 2 years old. In my opinion, vanity made them select attractive and somewhat successful baby daddies instead of going the sperm bank route. They didn't want to roll the dice on an unseen sperm donor. I think both essentially wanted a sperm donor yet selected men who now want more. Both men are seeking increased visitation and parental rights.

Was the selection of these baby daddies worth the trouble? In addition to negative press, Halle had to leave a movie project to pursue her custody battle.

Years ago, I told a friend that I wanted a child. She advised me to screen men for a potential baby daddy. I responded that I wanted all or none — meaning a true partner or to adopt and be a single partner. I always feared that I would end up being forced to co-parent with someone I didn't want in my life.

What are your thoughts?

So, what do you guys think of this issue?
Do you want to be a mother?
If you don't have a partner, would you go to a sperm bank or prefer to have a child by someone you think is nice or nice-looking?
Would you want to be a single-mother?

Truth Hurts

Today I got an email from a guy I had gone out with a few times, maybe three or four times. He wanted to know why I didn't like him, what "turned me off."

"I would just like to know so I can adjust or improve my situation for the next lady I meet," he wrote in the email.

Wow, that really caught me off guard. I mean, what am I suppose to say, "Your man boobs make my stomach turn?"

He's a really nice person, but I just didn't like him. We didn't click. I wasn't physically attracted to him and he was a little too touchy, feely for me. Also, he learns about what's going on in the world through The Michael Baisden Show.

But I just simply said, "You know, I don't think we have a lot in common."

However, I thought his question was bold and honest. I applaud him. He wanted to know what he had done wrong and how he could improve himself so he wouldn't make the same mistakes. He asked what he should change to attract the type of woman he wanted in his life.

I'm not sure I would want to know why someone doesn't like me. I'm a little thin-skinned. My feelings would be hurt - LOL ! I CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH !

But seriously, would you want to know how to improve yourself to attract the type of person you wanted? I'm not talking about changing who you are, but improving the basics. Or do you feel like, "This is me, take it or leave it."

So I ask:

Have you ever wondered why it didn't work out with that special someone?

Did you ever really like a guy and sometimes wondered why he stopped calling?

Do you think about what you could have done differently to make him stay? (maybe I should have cooked more or maybe I should have dressed a little sexier or maybe I should have been a little more supportive of his goals or maybe I should have lost weight or maybe I shouldn't have been so mouthy or maybe... you get my drift)

Would you like to know the reasons someone is no longer interested in you?


Let me know your thoughts.